Dr. Oscar T. Moses
Mount Hermon Missionary Baptist Church of Chicago
W.A.R. Bible Study
5 People You Need in Your Life – Lesson #4
“People That Correct You!”
“The Need for A Nathan”
2 Samuel 12:1-14
A true friend dares to let you know your mistake rather than agreeing with you over what is wrong (unknown)
Taking correction can be a hard pill to swallow. However, correction is crucial to our spiritual development. Over the past 17 years, as a pastor, I have been corrected by church members, family, friends and foes and it’s not easy. However, I have noticed a pattern in the lives of those who receive correction and those who do not.
Throughout my 17 years serving as Pastor of the Mount Hermon Missionary Baptist Church of Chicago I have encountered people that will not receive correction; especially from me. The irony comes in the fact that whenever correction was given it was some adjustment that needed to be made to enhance one’s relationship with God, i.e., increasing one’s prayer life, giving God more time, studying God’s Word or forgiveness. As a consequence, I became the recipient of their rebellion and the activities in their life seemed to be infused with a rebelliousness across the landscape. They were not only rebellious towards my leadership but their rebelliousness surfaced on their jobs, in family and was connected to their immediate circle of friends.
On the other hand, I have witnessed lives that have been transformed, given vision and experience the Grace of God on amazing levels because they embraced a posture of humility that was open to correction. Receiving scriptural insights and applying them has reset the narrative for their lives.
This experience has taught me a valuable lesson that people that rebel against spiritual leadership because of spiritual correction are really rebellious towards God. When correction is given accurately and scriptural and resisted it is a spiritual issue. People with spiritual issues resist Godly change that could make their lives better. They have a problem with authority; especially Godly authority. Spiritual leadership is not the issue. The issue is rebellion against God.
I have learned that I cannot give correction and not receive it. Everyone has an opinion but God has a way of sending people into our lives that are sensitive and saturated in scripture to help point out our wrongs so that we can make them right. Everyone needs someone that can correct them.
Rev. T. A. Smith is a friend sent from God in my life. We met around 2009 through divine circumstances. It was meant for us to be friends. Rev. Smith holds no punches. He is a straight shooter that has a strong biblical worldview. Our conversations are not idle. We joke and laugh but the basis of our conversations are substantive. We deal with the “open wounds” of ministry in our conversations. It has been through these conversations that I have been convicted by the Word of God to change a pattern of thought, or adjust a line of reasoning that would be detrimental to me or my ministry. Although he is younger than I, his correction has been received because of his straightforwardness, sensitivity and knowledge of the scriptures. Thank you Rev. T.A. Smith for being a friend that corrects me.
God sent Nathan, a friend of King David, to correct him. David being the most powerful man in Israel had his way with another man’s wife, Bathsheba. After he discovered Bathsheba was pregnant with his child he had her husband killed in an attempt to cover the sin. The whole situation left a path of destruction. David became convicted of his sin but did not repent. God sent Nathan, his friend, to correct David.
Nathan approached David and shared a story of a rich man who had many sheep but he killed a poor man’s one little ewe lamb to feed an out of town traveler. When David heard the story he became angry and said this man shall surely die and then he must restore the lamb four-fold because he had no pity. It was then that Nathan said to David, “You are the man!” It was then that David repented unto the Lord and said, “I have sinned against the Lord!” Nathan said, “The Lord has put away thy sin and thou shall not die.”
- How did Nathan’s correction allow David to see the destructive path he was on?
- How does the following scripture apply? Proverbs 15:32
- How did Nathan’s correction show David the divine path to take?
- How does the following scripture apply? Proverbs 9:9
- When giving correction why is there a need to be sensitive to the person’s situation and how does Proverbs 14:12apply?
- When giving correction why should it be saturated by scripture?
Group Discussion on Biblical Principles
Read the following scriptures and discuss how they apply to the need for correction.
- Proverbs 15:32
- Proverbs 9:9
- Proverbs 1:5
- Proverbs 19:20
- Proverbs 28:26
- Proverbs 4:13
Group Discussion Questions on Correction
- Why is it so hard to receive correction?
- How do we know when correction is from God?
- How can we be blinded to our wrongs?
- Why is correction needed?
- How would you correct a friend?
- Why is timing so important when correcting someone?
- Why are the scriptures critical to correction?
- Why is sensitivity critical to correction?
- How can correction hurt or help a friendship?
Dr. Oscar T. Moses
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